December 18, 2007

Review of SingleC.com

One of the best things about SingleC.com is that they are clearly dedicated to helping single Christians meet likeminded people. Their staff is very good at monitoring the website’s content, ensuring that the members don’t get exposed to anything offensive or bothersome. Many members appreciate this, since one of the risks of online dating for Christians is that they can be exposed to many things that they find unnatural or wrong – and SingleC.com successfully keeps those things away from their members.

One of the examples of how SingleC.com ensures the quality and purity of their website is that they carefully review each profile before it’s posted – that’s why it takes a few hours before you see your profile online. The website also allows you to send instant messages to other online users, and one of the unique features of SingleC.com is that they group the instant messaging users according to their modem speeds. This is a nifty feature, since it lets you know the limitations of your messaging capabilities.

The member database is of high quality, and most members have photos included in their profiles. However, the questions asked on the profile questionnaire don’t seem too detailed, so the search function has limited options. Also, a great majority of the members seem sincere, wanting to truly connect with genuine Christians.
The website also contains a small range of Christian articles, all of which are well-written and help you get integrated into he world of online Christian dating. The free e-cards section lets you send greeting cards to other members, and the calendar lets you know who may be having a birthday.
SingleC.com can provide a good, healthy start for people who are new to online dating. They value the opinions of their members, as well as the quality of their profiles.

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December 14, 2007

The Black Christian Single’s Guide to Dating

Most singles in the world are looking for love and romance – especially within their own culture and religion. This is also true of black Christian singles. This is because your culture and your faith play an important role in terms of who you are selecting for a mate. Usually, the way you were raised by your church and family influences your views on dating. Some people grew up believing that it’s ideal to date and marry someone from their race or culture, while others were taught otherwise. As a black Christian, there are several ways for you to approach this issue.

First, consider if you want to limit your dating arena to blacks or Christians. When thinking about interracial dating, be aware that you may have more options if you look outside your own race. However, if you’re used to dating people of other races, consider dating within your race. Whatever you choose, be sure to pray to God for guidance first and to consult your friends, family, and the members of your church.

As for dating people from other religions, keep in mind that God wants you to be “equally yoked” with people of the same faith. This may cover people form different denominations, but it is the Lord’s preference that we marry or go out with people who are also believers. So when you go out on your search for other black singles, you might want to stick to other Christians. This ensures that the spiritual foundation of your relationship will be coming from the same place.

When it comes to your search for dates, there are so many places you can try to find other black single Christians like yourself. You can start with your own church. However, most singles are wary of dating within their church because it’s such a tight-knit community. This means that their dating life will be under the watchful eye of the members of their church. If this is true in your case, you might want to try participating in events and activities from other churches. You should also look into local Christian groups that aren’t based in a single church only. This will help widen your circle – allowing you to meet new friends who might introduce you to dating prospects, or who might be potential dates themselves.

The important thing to remember as a single black Christian is that God is on your side. Through prayer, He will be able to help you with your dating life. In a way, God is the ultimate dating guide! For it is through his guidance that we meet the mate intended for us, and it is within his plan that we form the sacred bond of marriage.

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December 7, 2007

Review of SingleChristiansOnly.com

SingleChristiansOnly prides itself in providing online dating services for “marriage minded singles”. That slogan in itself tells you a lot about the website’s faith statement and philosophy. Most of the members in the website’s database really seem to look for strong, stable connections that will eventually lead to marriage.

There are 3 types of memberships available on SingleChristiansOnly.com. There’s the free trial membership, the basic membership, as well as premium membership. In the free trial, you get to explore some of the basic features of the site – although your activities will be limited. All members have access to the advice and ebook sections of the website, as well as to SingleChristiansOnly.com’s customer support. All 3 types of memberships also allow for full use of the advanced search feature. Like most of the popular Christian dating websites, SingleChristiansOnly.com has an automatic matchmaking feature – the ANA or Automated notification Assistant. This function lets you receive emails when members who match your search criteria join the website. This is a nifty feature, especially for those who don’t want to go through the tedious process of searching through thousands of profiles.

The advice articles section contains only a couple of articles about how to search for your mate, as well as the dangers of online dating. It would’ve been better if the site had more articles online, but the quality of the service and the member database more than makes up for this. After all – it’s a Christian dating website, and not an online magazine.

Overall, the interface of SingleChristiansOnly.com is quite professional and sleek. It’s also fairly easy to navigate. Take advantage of their free trial membership to see if this is the right website for you. They also feature a testimonials page that shows how previous and current members have had dating success through their services.

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December 3, 2007

Looking for Love Online for Christians

Attempting to find love online can be hard for most Christians. This is because the process is sometimes difficult, confusing, and tiresome – but only if you’re unsure of what you’re doing. Here are some things you need to know as a Christian embarking on a quest for online love.

The first thing you should keep in mind that it is ideal that you look for other Christians when looking for a potential husband or wife. This is because the Bible is clear that believers shouldn’t be “equally yoked” with unbelievers. Even with the Bible quote aside, it is much easier to form a strong, lasting bond with someone who shares the same values, faith, and religious practices as you do. This is because your spirituality is the foundation of any relationship that you form with another person. Having very striking differences in this aspect might give you more difficulties than you expected.

Next, you need to put some trust in the Lord. After all, he breathed life into you. All aspects of your life – including your dating life – should be guided by Him. You can know his plan by praying during every step of your search for “The One”, as well as every step of your relationship. If you trust in the Lord and you listen to well to His answers to your prayers, you will be guided to the right partner for you. Though looking for the right partner seems easier online, it can be made safer and more holy by requesting enlightenment and guidance from God.

Also, when looking for love online, you should try to get to know a person extensively before you take it seriously and meet face-to-face. Do they think of the needs of others? Are they caring? Do they listen well? How deep is their faith in God? These are things you need to know about someone before you take the first step of trying to form an offline relationship with them.

Finally, don’t forget to take extra precautions when dating online. Even if someone claims to be a Christian, that might not be their true identity. Know how to judge whether a person is being truthful or not. You can do this by being vigilant and reading about the possible dangers of dating online. Of course, praying is also an integral part of this.

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November 30, 2007

Review of GE-Dating.com

GE-Dating.com is one of the most established Christian dating websites out there. They have nearly 30 years of experience in helping likeminded Christians find true love. Like most Christian dating websites, they pride themselves in keeping a high quality membership database. In fact, their member screening process is one of the most dedicated processes we’ve seen so far. They screen your vital information, making sure that your identity is 100% real, and they even meet you face to face. They also ensure that the photographs posted on your profile are current, so as not to mislead other members as to how you really look.

GE-Dating stands for Great Expectations. You can access the website by entering www.ge-dating.com or www.great-expectations.com into your website browser. If you want to join their member database, you can start by creating a dating profile. You fill out a basic form which includes your vital statistics as well as your personal interests and what you’re looking for in a date. You can also upload pictures and answer 2 essay questions about who you are and what kind of person you want to meet.

Another great feature is that when you search the member database, the first profiles that show up are those that are most compatible to yours. You can even search for people who are geographically nearer to you. Since the website focuses on membership quality, you won’t find any of the annoying and offensive memberships you will generally find on most online dating websites.

They have a free trial version that allows you to have the same search capabilities as a paid member. However, you may not easily communicate with paid members – they should be the ones to contact you first. The paid membership is definitely worth it if you can find several people who live close by.

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November 24, 2007

How Do I Stop Having Sex Outside of Marriage?

The question of sex outside marriage is more complex than people initially think. After all, you will get different answers, depending on who you’re talking to. But the Bible is definitely clear about what God thinks of this kind of intercourse.

Sex outside of marriage is called “fornication”. It is mentioned in several parts of the Bible as something that God disapproves of. After all, fornication is an unholy use of our bodies – which God has given us. Knowing that, you need to take steps to avoid or stop having sex before marriage.

First, you need to be aware of the consequences of extramarital sex. This includes sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. These things can happen to anyone, anytime they have sex. Even if it’s their first time, even if they’re using condoms, and even if you truly trust and love the person you’re with. There are also emotional consequences from sexual intercourse, including the formation of a strong emotional bond or attachment with your partner. Are you emotionally and mentally equipped to handle it? People often forget that sex is more powerful and more spiritual than just the simple search for pleasure. This is why God intended sex for marriage – because only in the sanctity of marriage will you experience the pure, life-giving purpose of sex.

Next, you need to think about why you want to have sex outside of marriage. Is it out of peer pressure? Do you want to feel loved and appreciated? Are you ashamed to be a virgin in this time where people are promiscuous? Examine your reasons and see where the problem really lies. Usually, the reason why you want to have sex has nothing to do with sex itself. It usually has to do with a crushed self-esteem, or the fact that we are continually bombarded with wrong ideas about sex from the media.

You also need to consult people form your church, as well as those whom you feel are adequate spiritual advisors. This may include your pastor or minister, people from your church group, and even your family. More often than not, you’ll find a lot of wisdom from these sources. Then can help guide you to strive for better spirituality rather than active sexuality.

Finally, don’t forget to pray to God and ask for His guiding hand to help you become a stronger person who can resist temptation.

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November 18, 2007

Review of ChristianSoulmates.com

ChristianSoulmates.com is an online dating service for the Christian community. Thousands of single Christians are members of this website, hoping to find romance and commitment with people of the same faith as theirs. Because of the importance that ChristianSoulmates.com puts on faith, you will be part of an online community that respects your faith and ensures that you are always feeling secure and comfortable.

The website welcomes people from all denominations. Whether you want a new romance or a simple Christian pen pal, you can definitely search for someone through ChristianSoulmates.com. They allows sign-up from all over the world, letting you get to know people from across far distances.

When new members log on to the site, they fill out a questionnaire for your profile which will include the basics: your vital stats, your interests, what you are looking for, etc. A Soulmate Searcher feature lets the website match you up with people who closely resemble what you’re looking for. Other features include chatting, email, a message board, and an online bookstore. You can check out all their additional features by signing up for the 10-day free trial.

Although ChristianSoulmates.com believes in forming strong meaningful relationships that will be blessed by God, they obviously allow their members to have fun. This is seen especially in the message boards and chat rooms, where people are of a fun, bubbly mood. They also have a section that announces the latest news about the website’s maintenance. They even have member poll, which helps them find out what their members want from the website in terms of upgrades or changes in the membership policy.

Currently, the website has over 24,000 members in their database. They seem to be relatively new in the Christian online dating game, so these numbers are impressive. A lot of single Christians have found happiness in this website, as seen through their testimonials. It is encouraged that you sign-up for the free trial and browse the website’s features before you sign up for a paid membership.

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November 15, 2007

Should I Date a Christian Outside My Own Denomination?

Several Christians who are interested in dating ask this question at one point or another. After all, scripture isn’t 100% clear about whether Christians from different denominations should get together to date, form a relationship, and get married. Although it’s hard to find one surefire answer to this question, there are many things that you should consider and pray about before you decide on your personal answer.

First, consider that even if denomination seems like a small issue now, some things become bigger issues after marriage – especially if there will be children involved. What denomination will you raise your children? How much will your significant other participate in the activities of your denomination? Is there an expectation for either of you to switch denominations? These are only a few questions that you have to ponder before you start dating someone from another denomination. These questions are important, since most Christians believe that dating is but a step towards a marriage.

Next, you need to consider how your denomination views dating. Is dating just plain fun or should it be a step towards marriage? You need to respect your denomination’s views, as well as the views of your date’s denomination. After all, since you both believe in Christ and His teachings, you already have a lot of common ground.

You also need to think about how similar your denomination is with your date’s denomination. If there are several similarities and only minor differences, you may have less problems in the future – at least, in comparison to couples whose denominations differ greatly.

Of course, if your denomination strictly prohibits dating outsiders, you already have your answer for you. Be clear on your denomination’s beliefs on this issue, so that you don’t end up going against the church’s wishes without knowing it.

Needless to say, you have to be upfront with your date about your views or questions about inter-denominational dating. It might also help to ask your family, friends, and church leaders for their opinion. But don’t listen to them all – it’s more than likely that they’ll come up with different answers. To make sure that you are working according to your true will as well as God’s will, you need to constantly pray and reflect about it. If your prayers are answered and you are definitely faced with the mate that God has intended for you, then the question of having different denominations becomes irrelevant.

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November 8, 2007

Review of ChristianConnection.co.uk

Through ChristianConnection.co.uk, single Christians from Ireland and the UK are able to meet and mingle online. Whether you’re looking for friendship, a romance, or a marriage – ChristianConnection has something for you.

ChristianConnection.co.uk has a membership database limited to people who are currently in the UK or Ireland. They also give consideration to members who aren’t in the UK or Ireland, but they should be visiting on a regular basis. The advantage of joining ChristianConnection.co.uk is that you get to meet singles who are geographically closer to you, unlike most international sites. There’s no risk of forming a strong connection with someone who is almost impossible for you to reach – literally.

You can sign up for ChristianConnection’s 10-day free trial, if you want to get a feel of the site and see if it’s what you need. However, there are limitations included in the trial account. For example, you can only send a maximum of 5 emails within a 24-hour period. Also, you won’t be able to post any replies or messages on the community messageboard. Although you can respond to chat requests, you may not initiate chatting with other members.

Of course, the paid membership is very much worth the minimal fee you pay for it. First of all, you have complete, unrestricted access to searching the member directory. You can also make unlimited use of the Online Matchmaker function, which automatically matches you up with people you are compatible with. You also have full access to the website’s chatting features, allowing you to talk to anyone you want. It’s also handy that you will be notified via SMS text messaging whenever you receive a message on the website.

ChristianConnection.co.uk is a good choice for those who live in the UK, especially since they can be notified of local events they may participate in. The quality of member profiles is also quite good – it’s obvious that the members are sincere Christians who really want to form meaningful connections.

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November 3, 2007

Where to Find Single Christian Men

Many women complain about how hard it is to find single men nowadays. If most women are having this kind of trouble, can you imagine how much harder it is for Christian women? Don’t worry – proper Christian men aren’t buried under a rock somewhere. We’ve got a few ideas on where you can find these eligible bachelors.

First, take a look at your church. It sounds fairly obvious, doesn’t it? It doesn’t mean that you have to limit yourself to sitting during the sermon and glancing at all the eligible men, after all, shouldn’t you be paying attention in God’s house? You can start by becoming more involved in your church and its programs. Volunteer your free time. There’s a good chance you’ll have some prospects, but at least you’ll be gaining new friends, as well as doing good in the process.

It also helps to be aware of any social events or activities aimed at Christians. This includes parties, bible study groups, book clubs, sports competitions, picnics and festivals. These types of activities are usually held around church anniversaries and holidays, so you should always keep an eye on the posters and flyers in your community center or local park. By joining these events, you might meet some promising men who would be happy to go out with you.

You can also look at special Christian singles vacation tours or holidays. There are special cruises, tours, and vacations that are exclusively for Christian singles. There’s a pretty good chance that you’ll meet some promising men in these situations, and have fun as well. Whether you find your future husband or not, you’ll at least spend a relaxing, fun vacation with people of the same beliefs and faith.

Another thing you can try is to ask friends and family if they know anyone who would be a good match for you. After all, they know you well and they might have a good idea on what kind of man is suitable for you.

You might also want to look into local Christian dating services. Just be sure that the dating service you sign up with has a faith statement that goes with your personal philosophy and beliefs.

Finally, you should pray and ask for God’s guidance. He has big plans in store for you, and it is within His will to make His children happy. He’ll definitely help you meet the right man at the right time, if He thinks you’re ready.

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